Demonstrating your love for those who deserve it is an art, and like any art, it requires a lot of practice. To begin with, people respond differently to love. Some people like to hear words, others need to see caring behavior, and still, others respond best to attention signs. Be it your friend, family member, spouse, or partner, strive to cover a wide range of words and actions to show your love to a person.
Give them compliments.
Sometimes it’s easy to think that the people around us know how much we love and value them, while in reality, they don’t feel it. To make it clear how dear a person is to you, give them compliments. Does your girlfriend always support you? Tell her about it. Does your spouse look very good today? Tell them about it. Do they understand you like no other? Tell them about it. They will feel a sense of pride.
Start with something simple. Here are two guaranteed options: “I really appreciate you,” and “I’m glad you are in my life.” Both women and men love compliments regarding appearance and personal qualities. A phrase like “You are so beautiful/attractive/cute/charming,” can work wonders. “You’re so kind/smart/sweet” is also a good option. Always be sincere. Do not compliment just to make someone nice. If you don’t like how your spouse cooks, don’t lie (but appreciate the time and effort that she put into this process). Compliments mean little if they are insincere.
Cheer them up.
Part of love is faith in the development of friends and loved ones, as well as their encouragement. Suppose you want to go to graduate school and share this desire with your best friend. But she immediately besieges you, saying that it is too much a waste of money and time. Do you feel loved in such a situation? Probably not. Keep this in mind when it comes time to show love. Encourage others to grow and strive for what makes them happy.
Here is another example. Suppose your boyfriend admits that they always wanted to work in the police. They are thinking of a career change to go to law enforcement. How do you react to this? Do you support their desire to follow their dream or laugh at them? What better demonstrates love? Compliments, like the ones mentioned above, can be encouraging. Try to strengthen the self-esteem of a loved one by pointing out their strengths: hard work, kindness, and talent. In addition, you can encourage your loved one, showing solidarity. Phrases “I believe in you,” or “Remember that I’m here for you” can inspire people. One of the ways to cheer your loved one up is to spend some great fun time with them. Here are just some hobby ideas for couples.
Whether it’s your mother, neighbor, friend, or loved one, asking for advice will show that you value the person’s opinion and trust them. This will allow a person to feel satisfied with themselves, increase their sense of significance and strengthen your relationship. By asking, you lose practically nothing. Most likely, you will benefit from the conversation in any case.
At the same time, your question does not have to concern something global. Ask them what their favorite new restaurant is or where they repair their car. As a rule, we seek advice when a crisis occurs in a particular area of our life. However, if you have no problems, do not take them from the ceiling.
Generously thank your loved ones.
After many years of relationships, it’s not easy to treat your friend or loved one as carefully as you did at the very beginning. Let’s rearrange that you have been in a relationship for several years. Of course, housework responsibilities are divided: you wash the dishes, and they take out the garbage. It’s just what you do, but the fact is that your partner is hardly crazy about their responsibilities. They will appreciate if you thank them, and they will be a little pleased that their contribution is noticed. Try to say something like “I am very grateful that you help with washing dishes,” or “Thank you for all the time that you devote to helping me.”
Take a moment to think about your partner. Most likely, they do many things for you that you don’t even notice. Do they buy additional products? Washes your towels? Waiting for you in the parking lot? They show you their love – respond with gratitude.